There's More Than One Way to Lead
"You need to be more aggressive"
"You should be tougher on your team"
"You can't be friends with your employees. Keep your distance"
I can't tell you how many times these "rules" hunted me.
The way women leaders were portrayed in every movie, TV show, or
book I've read made me think this is what it takes to become a leader.
If you want to impress your male colleagues - be aggressive.
If you want to climb up the ranks - get tougher.
If you want your team to respect you - act like a b*tch.
Luckily, I could never be any of these things:
I cry at work sometimes when I'm upset.
I bring the team cookies when I bake over the weekend.
I know my team member's partner names, I know how old their kids are, and what's happening in their lives.
I hug people. My manager included.
I speak passionately when I'm trying to make a point or lobby for my idea, but I rarely raise my voice. I use data and empathy to get buy-in.
I put my ego aside and try to make everyone else feel like a winner.
And despite ignoring all the "rules" I managed to lead high-performing teams and crush KPIs.
My fellow women, there is more than one way to lead.
You don't have to pretend to be someone else, be yourself and own it.